Couple's Therapy

Distanced Couple

Why to get couple's therapy

It is way for couples to experience difficulties within their partnership. Sometimes our past interferes with attachment and bonding. Sometimes life gets hectic or challenging and one's relationship can be neglected. 
Entering into couple's therapy can be intimidating and scary. 

When to get couple's therapy

The average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital problems (Gottman, 1994)

1/2 of all marriages that end do so in the first 7 years. (Gottman, 1994)

67% of new parents experience a precipitous drop in couple satisfaction in the first three years of the baby's life. (Shapiro & Gottman, 2005)

The Four Horseman (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling) predict early divorce 5.6 years after the wedding. (Gottman, 1994)

Emotional Withdrawl, the absence of positive affect during conflict discussions (shared humour, affection, empathy) predict later divorcing 16.2 years after the wedding. (Gottman, 1994)

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What to Expect

In my therapy sessions, we start with getting a history of your relationship, the issues you are currently having, as well as a discussion about how you as a couple handle conflict. 
I use the Gottman Couples' Therapy method which has an emphasis on assessment and skill training to improve communication during conflict and to strengthen connection. 

Why to work with Ursula

Ursula is trained in Gottman's Couple Therapy Levels 1 and 2. 

She has gone through the joys of marriage and the tumultuous effects of divorce. Ursula is motivated to help couples prevent divorce by strengthening your bond to each other and increasing couple skills. 
It is important for you to enjoy your lives together not only for your own happiness but also for the happiness of your children. 

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